No… No i’m not. But Thanks. This is actually the last full week of the second trimester, which feels a bit surreal. I was having a fun chat with a coworker today (who has been through two babies of his own. Well, his wife has, anyways.) He very kindly emphasized the difference between “pregnant” and “fat”; but I tell you, I continue to be shocked and amazed at the comfort level that people seem to have, commenting and commentating on how I look, what i’m eating and my weight. If I could send one message to humanity, it would be:
Avoid saying the following to a woman in any stage of pregnancy
You must be about ready to pop / That baby Must be coming soon / Not long now, I guess…
All of the above, or anything related will be taken by said pregnant woman to mean “gosh, you look large today“. Unless the woman is, literally, going into labour in front of you – do us all a favour and resist the urge to guess how much longer – your guess will inevitably be too soon, and we will feel gross as a result. Actually, even if the woman IS going into labour, take a few minutes to say “wow – I wouln’t have guessed you to be more than 4-5 months. You look fabulous“. She’ll be a friend for life.
I blame TV, movies, and the removal of natural stages of birth and death from our culture – just like very few people really understand what dying is about or what it looks like, realistic depictions of what a pregnant woman looks like have morphed into “stick figure with a small pillow attached to her stomach”. For example – Knocked Up’s Katherine Heigl, or Baby Mama’s Amy Poehler – at 6-8 months, realistically looked like I did at, maybe, 5 months. Maybe. (By the way – that is my favourite clip from Baby Mama, or pretty much, ever.)
So what does real-life pregnant person at six and a half months look like? Here’s a reminder of me at 16 weeks vs now.
vs. 26 weeks
Clearly, there’s been a few changes… as my husband likes to say “look at that rack”. Oddly, my hair apparently hasn’t grown at all (so much for that pregnancy rumour). I’m definitely rounder.
It’s a great dress – I’ve worn it at least once a week for 10 weeks now, and I feel wonderful in it – super stretchy, soft material, and will have easy access for post-baby breastfeeding. I wore it to the Cherry Blossom Festival activities at Queen Elizabeth Gardens, then grocery shopping – at which point the cashier said, “I wish they had cute clothes like that when I was pregnant”.
Now, it’s totally appropriate to say that 🙂
The key for this dress is that is still has waist definition, a feminine shape and versatility. You can wear it when you’re pregnant (or in the time thereafter) and still feel human. Cute, even!
mommy size: about 173 pounds and still 5 foot 11.5. That hasn’t changed yet.
biggest change this week: people have started consistently offering me their seat on full buses. I take that as a sign that I officially “look pregnant”
major accomplishment: we bought a stroller! The Bumbleride Indie. I love it.
what i’m noticing: my patience level varies massively – i’m finding that certain noises and, um, people are driving me NUTS!!! Not you though. I love you <3.